“I think you are using confusion as a way to protect yourself from getting hurt.”
My head flying back in disbelief I said, “AH, you have got to be kidding me, I just released fear as my false protector, and now you are saying confusion has come to take its place?” UGH!
My friend had just said something similar to me as I was rambling about my confusion to him before the appointment: “Lindsay, staying confused keeps you from making a decision and that feels safer than stepping into something that you fear either outcome, you are staying safe on the fence.”
Folks, I feared pain, the pain of possible rejection and the pain of it possibly working out. I know, kinda crazy, huh! I feared, so I was controlling through confusion.
I feared, so I was controlling through confusion. That’s really WEIRD.
Fear, control, and confusion often work side by side.
But we have to walk past them, we have to push through them, and that is not always easy, actually, I have found that it can be quite hard. But GOOD NEWS Jesus is right beside us, there to help us, He really is, we just have to ask.
We have to ask Jesus to help us, and then we have to ask ourselves:
Then, we must ask Jesus the same questions.
Jesus, what are my fears in this situation?
Jesus, what am I trying to control?
Jesus, what part is confusion playing? What am I REALLY confused about?
The confusion comes to bring disorder in our minds. Sometimes it feels safe, but like fear it is a false protector, it’s hiding something that Jesus probably wants to heal.
In 1 Peter 5:8 the Bible says “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”
In the Greek language (the original language of the Bible) the word sober-minded is a verb meaning to exercise self-control.
“self-control” in our mind is what we are going to talk about here. And GOOD NEWS because self-control is a FRUIT of the Holy Spirit, so we don’t really have to muster it up, we can rather, ASK for HIS help!
It’s the simplest of prayers, “Holy Spirit will you help me here”?
The thing is controlling what we believe is an action; it is the renewing of our mind with what God says about us, rather than:
A) What we think ourselves.
B) What the dust people say about us (every human on earth)
Don’t believe all the thoughts you think about yourself, because our minds are influenced by so many different things and this is what causes confusion.
The definition of confusion is a state in which many things are happening in a way that is not controlled or orderly.
“many things are happening” can mean, many things happening around us, many things happening inside of us or many things being spoken over us (by random dust people or directly from the Father of Lies). All of this can cause confusion.
I love what I heard Bible teacher, Beth Moore recently say:
“It’s often important to ask…Who told you that?”
Who told you, you were confused?
Who told you, you were ugly?
Who told you, you were worthless?
Who told you weren’t good enough?
Who told you that?
And ask Holy Spirit to help you!
We must be sober-minded, we must be thoughtful about what we are thinking about, we must ask ourselves, where did that thought come from? And what is the fruit of that thought? Is it peace, joy, contentment? Or is it fear, anxiousness, confusion.
We are in a world with two kingdoms, the Kingdom of Heaven and the kingdom of darkness. Which Kingdom is your thought life coming from? We can all be influenced by both at any minute.
Which Kingdom are you allowing into your mind, to affect your emotions?
God (the God of the Bible) is not a God of confusion, so if you are confused, ask Jesus to show you His truth in your life and your situation. He says He will never leave you or forsake you and that He will always help you through His Spirit (the Holy Spirit). (Hebrews 13:5 and Isaiah 41:10)
Be encouraged, because we are promised that when we ask it will be given to us (Matthew 7:7) and in conjunction with James 1:5 when we ask for wisdom, we can be assured that He will provide what we need.
Why is identity so important?
Because “as a man think in his heart, therefore He is” Proverbs 23:7 King James
What we believe about ourselves deep in our hearts, we will ultimately become.
I use to think really odd things about myself, but at the time, I thought those weird things were me, I didn’t know I had a creator who adored me and I surely didn’t know I had an adversary who wanted to destroy me. I had no idea of the war around me.
I didn’t know I had a choice who I put my identity in, I didn’t know I had a choice of what I put my identity in, I thought I was just who I was, “I “MUST” have been born this way, I thought!” That is what people would tell me, that is what tv would tell me, that is what my feelings were telling me, that is what life told me, I didn’t know I had a choice, I thought “this must just be who I am” therefore I must accept it, believe it and then as scripture says, I would become it.
THIS MAKES ME SAD, because I spent so many years believing TERRIBLE things about myself and guess what, I had to drink myself to an oblivion to drown out the things that I hated about myself that weren’t even TRUE.
I don’t pretend to know why people take their own lives, but I remember wanting to take mine and it was because what I believed was true about me, made me want to die.
God wanted me desperately to know who I was, as His beloved daughter, but He gives us free will, it was my choice, I just didn’t know it.
Well until that day, I heard the thoughts in my head so clearly, and they were so mean, but I didn’t know I was being lied to, all I heard was “you are worthless Lindsay, you are such an idiot, I can’t believe you thought anyone would ever love you, look what you did, you left everyone who would love you and now look at you pathetic again, you might as well just call it quits, you are SUCH a loser, NO ONE WILL EVER LOVE YOU”
I didn’t know God at this time nor did I know the devil who I now know was talking to me, but by God’s grace, I called out to Him, I felt like I was being beaten over the head with a crowbar and as I felt like I was going to die, I simply said “God” not even knowing God and as clear as day I heard deep in my being “I am right here, Lindsay, I have always been right here” and without a shadow of a doubt, I KNEW it was God. I didn’t know God, but it was like He knew how to make Himself known to me.
The room went silent, the mean voice stopped and a tangible peace, Peace Himself came to the rescue.
It was the beginning of my walk towards Jesus! I didn’t know, but He would lead me to Himself. What a gracious GOD!
The actual definition of the word “identity” according to google is:
the fact of being who or what a person or thing is.
what a person is?
What are we?
I think my sociology professor wrote that on the blackboard back in college.
What are we?
According to the bible, no, we are not what we do, not even close. We are in fact none of these.
We are beloved children of the MOST HIGH GOD, so that lie that no one will ever love me, was the furthest thing from the truth, actually what the enemy was trying to tell me was the exact opposite of what God the Creator of the Universe says about me.
What is God saying about you? And what is the enemy saying about you?
The only true and sure way to know this is to search scripture, find out what the Creator of the Universe who calls you daughter, who calls you son has to say about you because it is not only true, it’s beautiful, it’s stunning and it will make you blush!
You may not be all those things that those around you say you are, you may not be those feelings that you have, you are definitely not those mean thoughts in your head, you are not who the media says you are, you are without a doubt who GOD SAYS YOU ARE and I can promise you that even if you don’t “feel” like that, it doesn’t mean it’s not true.
What is true, is what scripture says about you, that is what is true, whether you feel like it or not. If you have been believing a lie about yourself for years, it may take time to unravel.
If what you think about yourself doesn’t line up with scripture, you are being deceived and let me tell you I was deceived about some things for 39 years, so when I tell you that what you think you are may not be true, I am speaking from experience.
Has it taken time for me to unravel those lies, yes, a long time actually. But He is a healer, a restorer and a redeemer and if we continue to seek Him, He will show us the way out of the lie.
Father, God I pray for these precious people that read this blog, you know every hair on their head, you know every desire of their heart, and you know every lie they are believing about who they are, Lord, reveal, send your Holy Spirit to show them the truth of who they were made to be, who they are in You, Lord it’s only by your grace that any of us are free from the lies, come and heal our minds, hearts, bodies and souls, our emotions, our wills. WE CAN’T DO IT WITHOUT YOU.
It is in the powerful and almighty name of Jesus Christ I PRAY!
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