Hope when it hurts MOST!
I heard at my most recent Celebrate Recovery class that the avoidance of “feeling pain” is what leads to all compulsive behavior.
When the leader said these words, I thought to myself “ouch that hurts” but the more I think about how painful it is to feel pain the more I thought “that makes sense”
Who wants to feel pain? No one! But the Bible says “we will all experience trials and tribulations”, they will come in various packages for all of us, but pain seems unavoidable in this broken world.
I hate it too.
It is starting to make sense for me now, if we don’t choose to engage in the grieving process (even in the smallest losses of life) we will be avoiding pain and we will eventually find a way to cope, which is usually way worse in the long run. It was for me anyway.
I hate it as much as you do, but someone once told me that crying is like throwing up, it hurts coming out but once it is out, you feel so much better.
It’s a little annoying to hear when you are in the middle of it, but it is true and maybe a good truth for us all to hear before we need it next time.
I use to fear my next suffering, my next painful experience, but as I walk with God through life, (the amazing and the painful) I realize that I am ok after the pain has been released by allowing myself to ‘feel the emotion’.
But we sometimes avoid feeling the emotion because we think it is too hard to handle and so we stuff it, which is a BAD IDEA! Because feeling the pain in the moment actually helps it to heal.
I know weird, but true!
As I started this new class on co-dependency, I realized that after all the healing I have been through in the past 7 years of being a Christian, guess what? There is more. Thankfully God is so grace-filled and merciful that He helps us through our “stuff” little by little even when it seems like it is happening in chunks to big for us to bare.
The thing that helps us through is Jesus, is prayer, is community, is reminding ourselves that Jesus does weep with us, and comforts us if we will allow Him. And as the Bible promises “Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning”. Psalm 30:5 NASB
Believing that HOPE is indeed real and as my friends (and most recent freelance clients) at the Hope Heals Ministry say, “HOPE is what heals us all.” The person and the faith.
“Faith is the confidence of things hoped for, the assurance of things not seen. (NIV Hebrews 11:1)”
My encouragement for you today is that you HOPE, Hope against everything you ‘feel’ that says “there is no hope”. I felt this “hopelessness” wanting to creep in the other night when I was writing this blog, but I professed Hope instead. I usually like to sit in my pain and feel sorry for myself, that gets you no where, trust me I have tried it so many times!
It’s not one or the other, it’s feel the pain and then HOPE!
You can’t actually over hope, you hope when it hurts most. You declare to the heavens that your Hope is in Christ, that you will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Because we know that “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 NASB
And you are called according to His purpose, if you choose to believe and follow Jesus as your Lord and Savior.
We don’t have to fear or look about us, for our God will not only help us, He will strengthen us and uphold us in His righteous right hand! That is good news friends!
Isaiah 41:10 (NASB)
10 ‘Do not fear, for I am with you;
Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, surely I will help you,
Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’
You know me, I write to process through my feelings, how do you process through yours?