The Lies That Entangle Us… Series!


In case you’re new to the blog! #GuySchool is a special section on here for singles.  Look up, look to the middle and look for #guyschool

I am posting this next #guyschool series on the main blog because it’s about things that all humans deal with, so think of it from whatever context you find yourself in…


In our last little #guyschool lecture we talked about –looking inside a bit.

The reason: something might be holding us back that we don’t even realize.

See, the devil, he is a liar, and unfortunately a powerful liar. Jesus called him “the Father of lies.” He is real, and he starts early in our lives, planting seeds of unworthiness, fear, rejection, abandonment, identity, confusion, discouragement, and victimhood. He comes only to kill, steal and destroy. John 10:10

So we are going to start from the beginning of this list of issues above and work our way through it over the next several months.

I like to share my testimony with you because the Bible clearly says “We overcome the enemy by the blood of the Lamb (JESUS) and the word of our testimony” Revelation 12:11

Now, let’s start with you, Unworthiness!

It was a few months into my “walking through the fear of marriage with God,” as I found myself laying on the floor crying. Hard.

I heard The Spirit of God (Holy Spirit) softly whisper to my heart “Lindsay, it’s up to you, you know that marriage is not all rainbows and puppy dogs but you have to decide, do you want to get married or not?”  I had a sense; he was asking me.

It was one of the most painful experiences to actually dig into my soul and ask myself, “was I willing to TRUST in this area?” This area that for some reason was hardest for me? My heart!

The fear was SO deep, the fear of marriage that is, well the fear was really of abandonment and rejection. I thought if I got married, I would risk being abandoned and/or rejected, so it kept me from wanting to get married. But we will get to those (abandonment and rejection) later.

38 believing lies and they were deep and holding on with everything. It hurt, bad, but after a tear-filled evening, I got it out, “yes, Lord, even if it is hard, I do desire to be married.”

That was two years ago and that evening broke something deep within my soul.  And at the same time started something. An even deeper healing of sorts, led by the Lord.

I completely recognize that some of you are thinking “that’s nice for you Lindsay, but I have been praying for my husband for 40 years.”

And I hear you, I have dear, dear friends who would say just that, and they are AMAZING catches for some SMART MAN some day! But see the lie can sneak in, it can hold us back in all kinds of different ways.

I share my story because I don’t pretend to know everyone’s, but if you want to share yours, email me!

ok, back to the story! A few weeks later, as I was boarding a plane, I heard a still small voice say “it was just good old fashion unworthiness Lindsay.” I didn’t even ask a question, but the words just came to me.

I stopped half way down the aisle of the plane and thought to myself, ” Wait, WHAT?” WHAT?”

I was shaking.

I wanted to scream “THE DEVIL IS A LIAR!!!!!!!!”

I couldn’t believe yet again; I had fallen for such a SIMPLE lie for 38 YEARS.

I had asked the question a thousand times before; “why-why-why am I so scared of marriage, men and relationships?”

And it was at that moment; He chose to show me and I couldn’t comprehend how it could be so simple.

“Unworthiness, Unworthiness, that is the reason for the trauma and torment I have been through all these years, UNWORTHINESS?”

A simple, seemingly insignificant thing like unworthiness had held me captive ALL THESE YEARS.

I was speechless. The “issue” seemed so complex to me, “it couldn’t be that simple I thought.”

But here is the thing: the devil is a liar and I hate him. And that is why I come to you with this little story.

I am tired of the lies holding people captive, making them believe things that JUST AREN’T TRUE.

I know the feeling of lies FEELING really real, but friends, if what we hear or think about ourselves doesn’t line up with what our Father in Heaven says that we are through Jesus Christ, it just isn’t true. I want to encourage you to seek the Lord, your loving Heavenly Father and ask Him.

“Father, is unworthiness something I struggle with?

shhhhhhhhhh, just listen.

Let your AMAZING Heavenly Father tell you if maybe you believe you are UNWORTHY of what you truly desire, it could be hindering you, if it is hiding within you.

The Bible says “His sheep hear His voice.” I believe that means, His sheep, us, hear His voice, Him.

Here are a few resources to learn more about how to hear His voice for yourself.  -Hearing God’s Voice- Henry and Richard Blackaby – Hearing God- Dallas Willard – Discerning the Voice of God- Priscilla Shirer – How to Hear from God- Joyce Meyer

I have not read all of the above, so use your discernment, read the reviews, these are all Bible teachers I enjoy, but they are human, and they may differ in opinion. One thing I have ZERO doubt about is, Jesus came to set you FREE.

John 8:32
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

And the truth is, YOU.ARE.WORTHY!

Love Always,


Ps. if you want to dig in more to this subject of unworthiness, click here! 

Hey, Fear, My God is Near

Hey Fear, my God is near.
Have you guys heard that song, so good! I will put a link to it at the end of this article! 
Recently, a friend of mine sent me a message super excited about major break through people were getting at a prayer meeting at church. He was so pumped; because there is nothing more beautiful than watching people get free from lies and things that hold them captive.
He knew about all the sickness I had been having over the past month; it was one thing after another and with each “pain” a truckload of fear came barreling in behind it. I felt completely nuts for having a ‘DIFFERENT’ pain every other day; it was obnoxious.
I, then, started to get a little insight, that this was deeper than just a mysterious physical pain. I knew the root was spiritual, and the culprit was fear.
My friend’s next message to me said, “Lindsay, do you want to take care of that fear tonight?” 
Without a second thought, I said: “of course.”  
I then got a series of texts from him, saying:
1. Recognize -Recognize the fear (or whatever ‘it’ is)
2. Responsibility- take responsibility before God for your partnership with fear
3. Repent- Repent to the Father in the name of Jesus
4. Renounce- Renounce fear in the name of Jesus
5. Remove it!
6. Resist it- When it tries to come back 2 Cor 10:5- take every thought captive and submit it to the will of Christ
7. Rejoice- now that you are free, give God thanks and Praise 
8. Restore- restore someone else
Next text: “ask the Father to tell you what you need to repent of specifically concerning fear, could it be movies, men, past experiences any place where you’ve partnered with fear and allowed the enemy to establish his kingdom?”-
Next text:  “no condemnation just responsibility and you will receive forgiveness so quickly it will blow your mind.” 
Clear as day these words came to my mind “foundation, protection and security.”  
I repented. I quietly said, “OH Lord, forgive me for making my foundation in life fear instead of you and for seeing fear as my protector and security because that is you, I was wrong.”
The Bible is so clear:
1 Corinthians 3:11 NASB
For no man can lay a foundation other than the one which is laid, which is Jesus Christ.
Jesus is my foundation as a believer, and I had made fear my foundation by accident. Thankfully the Bible says “we can ask for wisdom from God, and He will give it to us without measure.” James 1:5
My friend then said maybe it was a guiding spirit to a false comforter, and it was like I won the lottery, that was it. 
I was putting fear in place of the Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit is our Helper; the Bible says in John 14:26, but I had been giving fear that place in my life. Fear was the one assisting me in every decision I made.
But not anymore!
I was free! I knew it. I woke up the next day with so much joy I had not known. 
In Psalm 51 David cries to God for repentance for the pattern of sin he engaged in following his transgressions with Bathsheba. He offers us a picture of what repentance should look like in our lives.
1.    David acknowledges his sin
2.    He asks for forgiveness
3.    He then asks God to renew him
4.    Finally, he asks God to help him to teach others 
Sounds familiar doesn’t it.
What is it that you need to ask God’s forgiveness of tonight? Ask the Lord in prayer what you need to repent of.
Go ahead: REPENT and BE CLEANSED. 

Getting Back to Intimacy

I love God’s grace, because as we wonder off into the teachings and opinions of others and slightly stray from our intimacy with Jesus, Father God and Holy Spirit, He lightly warns us.
Do you hear the warning?
As I continue my battle with the sin of fear.
I write down scripture after scripture from the Bible on why I should not fear.
Fear including worry and anxious thoughts.
It’s all ROOTED in fear.
Like those “super healthy people” (as I like to refer to them), you know the ones that talk a lot about “getting to the root of the cause of the health issue.”
I am kind of like them, but a believer in healing the soul and that also entails getting to the root and digging it out (ps. this sometimes hurts) BUT man does it have AMAZING results on the other side.
Fear is the (root) cause of all of the following:
1. Insecurity
2. Inadequacy
3. Inferiority Complex
4. Timidity
5. Worry/Anxiety
6. Sensitivity
7. Fear of Authority
8. Terror
9. Trauma
10. Torment/Horror
11. Nightmares
12. Panic Attacks
13. Phobias
14. Nervousness
15. Abandonment
16. Procrastination
As I pray, journal and write, I cry out to the Lord “this fear, it has me trapped, I am stuck, I can’t get out.”
He kindly reminds me of 2 things!
1. The only thing Biblically you are allowed to fear is ME!
yikes: I know this–
2. Fear is a sin–
it is an addiction, no different than food, alcohol, drugs or porn.
Fear is a sin, and you are addicted to it, Lindsay.
It is not a disease Lindsay; it’s a sin and you, my little overcomer, can conquer it because of Jesus setting you free from the slavery of sin. (Romans 8:2). Treat fear like sin Lindsay. Treat it like an addiction because it is.
It’s not ok Lindsay, even though it feels valid, you are enslaved, and I have a better way for you. Freedom is available. I know you don’t know life without it, but I promise if you trust me I will show you the way out. But you can’t trust me if you don’t know me. I am your good Shepard walk with me Lindsay let me show you the way to greener pastures.
{My name is Lindsay, and I am addicted to FEAR}
Fear is comfortable for me; I can hide behind it.
Most of us have some addiction, be it people pleasing, work, ministry (or the typical ones I mentioned above)
But be careful to let ANYTHING take the place of your intimate, personal relationship with God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. The lie we are believing is that fear will protect us, but it is quite the opposite, fear will keep us from all God has for us, and the truth is GOD is the one who will protect us! Stay close to Him!
He warned me about it, and I think He wants me to remind you!

6 Things to Remember When Fighting the LIE of Unworthiness

Unworthiness! I didn’t know you had a name. I thought you were my thoughts; you have lied to me for a really long time.

I took you on, unworthiness, as my identity, and didn’t even know it.

I never knew you could be so destructive, lie so deeply about who I was. I am going to tell on you now, so you can’t lie to others like you did to me.

Girls, unworthiness may be speaking to you and I want you to know, you can overcome this LIE!

Let’s take a closer look at the root word: unworthy. What does it say to us?


un·wor·thy: That we are insufficient in worth; undeserving. That we are lacking in value or merit; worthless. That we are unsuitable, not befitting. That we are vile. Despicable.

Insufficient: I felt completely insufficient and undeserving of what I truly desired.

Lack of value: I didn’t even know I had value.

Not suiting: I felt completely unsuited as a wife (for example), I couldn’t cook, I hated to clean and I couldn’t even have children. “Who would want me?” I thought.

Despicable: I truly thought I was disgusting.

After 38 years of believing these lies about myself, God started to unravel the tether bound tightly around my soul.

The Bible is clear that the Father of Lies comes to kill, steal and destroy and he will use very subtle things like unworthiness to do just that, destroy you, from the inside out.

I know it sounds harsh, but I can tell you from my own experience that one of the reasons I am not married (at age 39) is because I felt so completely unworthy of my true heart’s desire. And the Bible says in Proverbs 23:7, As you think within yourself, so you are. Unworthiness is sneaky, but it could be informing the way you see yourself.

Now, let’s talk about the prescription, not the disease.

Six things to remember when you are dealing with the LIE of unworthiness:

1. We have to know deep down that God REALLY does loves us!

I know, I know, God loves us, it sounds so cliché. But why is it so hard to remember? Why does it seem distant and hard to really grab onto sometimes? Probably because the idea of an intangible, seemingly busy God loving us doesn’t make a lot of sense. But I challenge you to think about it like a real relationship. What is your love language, for example? Try doing that with the Lord.

My love language is quality time and words of affirmation, so I feel most loved on by God and able to love Him back when I spend long amounts of time with Him (QT) and when I write to Him in my journal and listen to hear Him love on me (through His Word and His Spirit).

Because Your (God) love is better than life, my lips will glorify you (Psalm 63:3).

We must learn to receive His love, because we love only because He has first loved us (1 John 4:19).

2. We have to know deep down that He is for us

As life continues to beat us up, we have to remember that life will do that, but He is for us, He is our refuge, our strength, our ever present help in time of need (Psalm 46:1) He is the Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6), His Spirit is kindness, love, self-control, joy, peace, gentleness and patience (Galatians 5:22-23).

We do have an adversary and we live in a really broken world with lots of other really broken people, but He is a good, good Father. We have to shout that from the rooftops especially when life looks like it is going the other way. We have to encourage ourselves in the Lord and use His Word as a battle weapon to fight the good fight and shout His truth over our very own lives when we least feel like it.

3. We have to know deep down that God is good

The kindness of God is what leads us to repentance (Romans 2:4); it is His kindness in the middle of our mess that we need to look for and be thankful for and keep at the forefront of our hearts. We need to see the good in our life and yes, sometimes that means fighting to see it.

We all have good and we all have bad, let’s be real, but there is power in recognizing the good and hanging on to that even through the bad.

4. We have to pray to let Him have His way

We pray and ask for our desires, and then we release and surrender our will to His perfect will. Yes, that sweet and super hard way of surrender: reminding ourselves of God’s faithfulness in our past and grabbing onto Hope Himself for our future. We did our part, we asked, knocked and sought our way and our will, and now, we say “God, you know best, so your way not mine.”

5. We have to let others speak into our lives without being offended. And then ask God, is there anything to learn here?

One of my favorite quotes is,

“Love the learning in every situation.” – Graham Cooke

Enjoy the journey, walking step by step with Jesus. Surrendering moment by moment to His will, because you know He loves you, He is for you and He is good.

I had a friend recently question me on the fact that I didn’t take one particular white elephant gift from someone at a party. He asked me later on if I felt less worthy of it than the girl who I didn’t “steal” it from.

I explained, “no I think I was just being nice.”

He said, “I would lightly challenge you on that, Lindsay, and suggest you ask the Lord.” As simple as it was, he was right. At my core, I felt she should have it because I wasn’t worth it. SO SILLY, right? But funny how God can speak through seemingly small situations. So again, I encourage you to seek the learning, look and listen in every situation for what He might want to show you, to free you from.

6. We have to believe that we are adopted by a perfect Heavenly Father, who deems us worthy

Gals, we are adopted and grafted into a family of royalty; seriously, that is in the Bible. We are a co-heir with the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. We are worthy because He deems us worthy. We are valuable because of who our Daddy is, no matter what the ‘dust people’ on this earth say about us.

I have a super beat up old cell phone that is cracked in like 4 places and has trouble working at times, but on the back of my cover it says “Always wear your invisible crown.” Ladies, let me remind you: a crown requires our heads to be lifted high off the ground and looking straight forward so it does not fall off.

Lift your head, look at your Savior, your Lord, your ever present help in time of need and remember who YOU are!

Don’t let unworthiness lie you to; if you have to scream and stomp your feet to fight it, do so. I pray you are prompted to say “Jesus, it’s for you” when unworthiness comes knocking at your door.

No more, ladies. You are indeed worthy.

Insecurity, ZITS & How the Truth Will Set You FREE!

I guess I apologize for myself a lot.

I didn’t even realize, until my awesome friend Jen was like “Lindsay, stop apologizing for yourself and everything you say, you do that a lot, girl that is insecurity”

“Ohhh!” I thought

“That’s what it is?”

Thankfully by God’s grace I heard her through the lens of love and wanting freedom for me, not in an “ouch that hurt, now I am going to go feel sorry for myself” kind of way, which, friends, is what I use to do.

Victory! Yay!

We really do need to learn to celebrate the small victories in our lives. #DontWaitToCelebrate my Hope Healers would say, from Hope Heals Ministry

It was about 8 months ago during a prayer time at church that this amazing lady (Jamie, you know who you are) walked up to me and said “God loves your tender heart Lindsay, but He is going to strengthen you”

I thought, “sounds good Lord, have your way” although at the time I didn’t know what that even meant.

Looking back, I see how God has been working out issues of unworthiness, fear and now insecurity in my life. He is strengthening me, He is taking off layers of lies that were holding me down. And without the help of a brave friend, I don’t know that I would have pinpointed that my unnecessary apologizing was a sign of lacking confidence that my opinion even mattered.

In the past I would have been deeply offended by someone calling me insecure and I personally think offense is a crafty tool in the devil’s hand.

If we are offended by a true word, we won’t see it as something that can actually set us free. If the devil can keep us offended, that keeps us in bondage.

Side Note: 

Obviously not everything someone says to you is from the Lord. We are human, people are super average at best, but they (because of the Holy Spirit inside of them) are connected to a supernatural God. But it’s always best that you check these things with your Supernatural Father and His amazing Word.

In this scenario, when my friend Jen said “Lindsay that is insecurity” it was like my eyes were opened to a truth that I believe God wanted me to see. Our security comes from Him, we lack nothing in Him, therefore, this was inline with His Word without question.

I went home and thought about it, I prayed and asked God to show me how to get past this, I looked the definition up on google, and wondered to myself “what is insecurity anyway?”

lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt: (the dictionary said)

“YUCK, let’s get rid of it.” I thought.

My friend Jen, who isn’t going to candy coat anything, said to me the next week “Lindsay, I can totally see a change in you, you didn’t apologize once for yourself tonight, it was stunning, you are stunning” and I knew she meant it. I knew God had done something already.  Then a day later another friend said to me  “Lindsay, your true beauty is coming out, you seem so much more confident”. And then  just a few days after that a sweet brother of mine said  “Lindsay, you look beautiful, it’s like a confidence has come from the inside out and it looks good on you.”

I was like, WHOA, I think something has happened here!

And to top it off I have had the biggest zits on my face these past few weeks while all of this is going on, which coincidentally (wink wink) has always been one of my deepest insecurities, externally anyway.

What I think my friends saw, was inner healing manifesting on the outside, big zits and all.

Yes, huge zits, ugh, I am doing this super healthy cleanse my sister (aka editor and mother to my favorite two little people on earth) has me on. I think it is really working, cleaning all the yuck out, from the inside out and well for a short time it is all appearing on my face.

Oh the strange parallel.

What about you? Has a friend (or a stranger) said something to you that just might be from the Lord? To help you? To free you? I suggest praying into it, see if there might be a little lesson inside,  just for you? And if you feel offended, check the “why” behind that, you never know what you might find.

He is a good good Father! He wants us free, friends, from all the lies and entanglement that this world can so easily help us become ensnared too!

Whew, let’s do this, FREEDOM!